5 Reasons why you might be cutting God out of your life. And 5 ways to connect with Him
Have you ever been on a phone call with a friend, spouse, relative, or call centre agent and your line was cut off? It could be that the funds in your phone are insufficient, poor network connection or even the person on the other line is too angry to continue speaking to you.
It doesn’t matter why but being cut off when you are trying to connect to someone can leave you feeling frustrated, angry and sometimes even helpless.
In the same way, have you noticed how you can sometimes cut God out of your life? It could be that you are angry with Him for an unanswered prayer or you lost a loved one and can’t understand why. So you decide to figure life out on your own.
You end up feeling lonely, frustrated and lost.
Sometimes you just cut him out of certain parts of your life where you feel He shouldn’t be a part of. It could be your job, relationship, finances or parenting. And sometimes you don’t even realise you’ve cut Him off.
The 5 reasons why you might be cutting God out of your life (or parts of it):
1. You don’t know Him
- When you don’t know someone, of course it’s easy not to include them in your life. We teach our children not to entertain strangers because we don’t know them. When you don’t know someone’s true character and intentions for you it’s easy to cut them off.
2. You doubt what God says
- When you have serious reservations about what someone says-whether they are truthful or not, it’s easy to cut them out of your life. In the same manner, like Eve in the Garden of Eden, the moment she doubted what God had really said, she sinned and cut herself out of a perfect relationship with God.
- When you don’t believe God’s word, his manual and instruction for your life, then surely He can’t have a say in any area of your life.
3. You think your problems, challenges and situation are more important than God
- This one I know too well. There are times I’ve been so stressed and borderline depressed about my problems, I couldn’t pray, go to church or participate in church activities. I’ve had times when I was too consumed and worried about my own problems and cut God out of that situation trying to figure things out by myself (and not getting any closer to a solution by the way).
4. You believe that God doesn’t have your best interests at heart
- Have you ever heard someone say ‘If God really loved me, He wouldn’t have let this happen to me?’ Or is this something you have said yourself? I surely have-more times than I would care to admit. You can cut God out because you feel He doesn’t love you and He doesn’t have your best interests at heart.
5. You are convinced you can do everything by yourself, you don’t need anyone and especially not God
The world we live in can convince us that we don’t need God. When you have every solution available to meet your needs in this Information age, you wonder why you need God at all.When you have Google, all the latest gadgets or social media to help you solve your problems you can simply cut God out.
But here is the truth my friend. I believe God wants to truly connect with His children no matter where your relationship is with Him is-just starting, broken or you are sceptical of Him.
You don’t think so? Hear it from His Word.
5 Ways to connect with God. The Truth:
1. You can know God, He wants you to know Him
- Jeremiah 29:13. ‘And you will seek Me and find Me, when you seek Me with all your heart.’When you seek God whole heartedly by spending time with Him, getting to know Him and talking to Him about your life, you will connect with Him.
- Proverbs 8:17 ‘I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently find me’. To know God is to love Him, and the people you love, you want to keep connected to. And you know what, God is so loving He wants to connect with you in all aspects of your life- and I mean all!
2. God is faithful and His Word is true
- John 14:6a ‘Jesus said to Him “I am the way, the truth and the life”. No one comes to the Father except through me’. You can take God at His word, because it’s the truth, it will come to pass. His word is LIFE, abundant and eternal life.
- Look at 2 people in the Bible who God made a promise to and He delivered on it:
1.Abraham- the Father of faith.
God told Him he would be a father of nations and despite Him being in old age (medically he couldn’t be a father), yet God still honoured His promise.
And even when he had Isaac his son, God told him to kill him (ok, what?) but he obeyed God and in the end realised it was a test (he didn’t kill his son after all). Abraham is our Father and what God said to Him has come to pass.
2. David the shepherd boy became a King.
This is one person who went through a lot after being anointed the future King of Israel (including his boss Saul, the King at the time, wanting to kill him-can you imagine that?).
He may have had serious reasons to doubt God’s word but He didn’t and God called Him ‘the man after my own heart’ (1 Samuel 13:14).
Despite hard times, David stayed connected to God and believed that He would become a King one day and He did.
We have a lot of examples in God’s word that show how God keeps His promise. What would make you doubt that He will not keep the promises He has made to you in His word? It’s.Not.Possible.
3. Know that your problems are temporary.
- One of my favourite verses in the Bibles is 2 Corinthians 4: 16-18. It teaches us that what we see today, all these problems, they shall come to pass one day-they are not forever. All. Of. Them.
- Romans 8:28 says, ‘And we know that all things work for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose’ The good, the bad, the ugly, all of it is working together for a greater purpose and God uses it to make us better, stronger and stay connected to Him.
4. Know and believe that God is for you!
Jeremiah 29:11 ‘ For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope’
Don’t let the devil fool you, God is for you and He is on your side. More than that, His future plans for you are amazing. Just. Trust. Him.
5. Yes you can do it all, but through Christ!
Phil 4:13 ‘I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength’
Paul here was talking about living a life of plenty or lack and he declares that he can live in any circumstance even a hard one with God’s strength.
When you strive and work while cutting God off, you will be frustrated. But when you remain connected to God, He will strengthen you through all of life’s situations.
And even the woman in Proverbs 31, she could ‘do it all’ because she stayed connected to God.
Ok, so what action can you take today?
Know God more. Desire to know God more through spending time with Him in His Word, the Bible. Books, apps and devotionals are great but the Bible is best!
Talk to God. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says ‘pray without ceasing’. If you can talk, you can pray. It’s that simple. Don’t let God be a stranger. Talk with him anytime- while driving, shopping, exercising, washing dishes. He is always available. There is no ‘bad time’ to talk with God.
Believe God and Trust Him. Believe His word which is full of His promises, and trust Him. Memorise his promises for your life, and watch them come to pass.
Connect with other believers. Sometimes you think you need time out, away from your Christian family to process your problems. And there is a time for that. To seek God’s truth, pray and reflect alone. But sometime when you are alone for a long time you are more at risk of having the devil make you doubt God. And if that is happening in your alone time, rather spend time with other Christians.
Spending time with them will encourage and refresh you. You may even find someone who has gone through exactly what you are going through and they will help you overcome it.
My encouragement to you:
Stay connected to God, don’t allow the lies of the devil to make you think God doesn’t love you because He does. He is waiting for you and I to connect with Him today. The great thing is God is available 24/7 for us. Let us not cut Him out of our lives.
Heavenly Father, thank you for your love and grace. Forgive me for cutting you out of my life specifically in my___ (specify the area you’ve been cutting God out of). From this moment on, I want to seek your truth and direction in this area. I choose to connect with you daily because I know you care about all aspects of my life.
In Jesus name I pray. Amen